Oh how we love… 

I love the snow,
gloves, scarf and wooly hat,
Extra socks and a jumper or two
Squeals of delight and a Snowball fight
Cold toes begin to hurt cold hands
radiate heat, tingling fingers,
Heat rises and I feel snug
warm and glowing…

She loves the snow,
Hates, coats, gloves, scarf
and wooly hats, no extra socks,
sandals please, no jumpers mum
she begins to scream. Squeals of delight, snow on bare skin, fingers wet
cold, glowing eyes and
smiling lips, her heart
skips a beat.

We love the snow,
but hate your stares
muttered disbelief to
pretend you care. Ask,
and we’ll happily talk,
don’t stare, whisper,
and slow your walk.

She loves the snow
but she hates heat, a second
passes and she is faint,
a second more and it’s
breakfast paint. Just pause
a moment close your lips,
watch, listen truly see
I’m not about to let her
freeze, look closer,
See me touch her
arm as I wander past
see the coat across my arm…

… But mostly,
See the smile across
her soul, hear the laughter
of a spirit free and happy,
Look closly at
those pools of blue…

The problem isn’t us,
the problem is you.

Karen Hayward ©2017

Rude people

Hello world, so today’s Blog comes courtesy of me being a little pissed of today, some might call it a blog entry and others might call it simply a rant!

So rude people, they seriously piss me of, now, they come in different forms, you have your, unable to ‘communiate efficiently so appear rude types’, and you have your ‘I think im better than you and so will not give you the time of day types’, my anger is not directed at those that for whatever reason are unable to articulate themselves in an efficient manner and so appear to be rude types, but rather at the others.

You see the thing that annoys me most, is people who are rude in public, especially when done in front of my child. These people think they rule over the path, and so obviously they automatically have right of way, and so have no need to acknowledge the fact that actually they have right of way on the path for the simple reason that I have given it to them, a simple nod, smile or thank you, would not hurt.

Do these people not see, that when a child is out in public they’re learning about the social rules that govern their society, if a child see’s enough times that adults perceive themselves as better than those around them and therefore as having automatic rights of way, without even a hint of acknowledgement, then that child will believe that to be the acceptable and normal behaviour expected of them in society.

I often wonder if those people who choose to not acknowledge when a person has given them the right of way, are the ones that go home and complain about the youth of today and how disrespectful they are and of course how it is all the parents fault? They don’t seem to acknowledge that they play their part in creating the youth of today, they choose to express inappropriate manners, and to influence what children learn in their own communities.

I teach my child to respect those around, i teach my child that they are equal to those around, I get great pleasure in seeing the faces of the shamed, as my child’s words echo through the air ‘that person didn’t say thank you, and i moved out of their way’. These people can believe themselves to be better than those around them, but a child see’s them through different eyes, simpler eyes, a child will judge an adult without hesitation, and their judgement is usually correct.